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Apology messages

20 Apology Messages for Her (Short and Heartfelt)

20 original apology messages for your wife or girlfriend: short ones, heartfelt ones, and words for after a fight or when you hurt her deeply.

By Amanda's Gifts · 3 min read

The short answer

A good apology message is short, specific and owns what you did. Here are 20 you can send as they are, or change so they sound like you.

Short apology messages

  1. I was wrong, and I'm sorry. You deserved better from me.
  2. No excuses. I'm sorry, and I love you.
  3. I hate that I hurt you. I'm sorry.
  4. You matter more to me than being right. I'm sorry.
  5. I'm sorry for what I said. I didn't mean it, and you didn't deserve it.
  6. I miss us. I'm sorry for my part in this.

Heartfelt apology messages

  1. I've been thinking about what I did, and I understand now why it hurt. I'm sorry. I want to earn your trust back, one day at a time.
  2. You've always been patient with me. This time I didn't return it. I'm sorry, and I'm going to do better.
  3. I'm not asking you to forget it. I'm asking for the chance to show you I've learned from it.
  4. Saying sorry is the easy part. Showing you is the part I'm committed to, starting today.
  5. I let my bad mood land on you, and that wasn't fair. I'm sorry. You are the last person I ever want to hurt.
  6. I don't want to win the argument. I want to hold your hand again. I'm sorry.

After a fight

  1. I'm sorry for the fight. Can we start over with a cup of coffee and a long talk?
  2. We both said things. I'll go first: I'm sorry. I love you more than this argument.
  3. I'm sorry I raised my voice. You deserve to be heard, not talked over.

When you haven't been there for her

  1. I'm sorry I haven't been there lately. You come first, and I'm going to show it. Saturday is yours.
  2. I've been busy, and you've been patient. I'm sorry for making you wait for me.

When you hurt her deeply

  1. I broke something between us, and I know sorry doesn't fix it. I'm sorry anyway, and I'll keep showing you I mean it.
  2. I understand if you need time. I'll be here, and I'll be honest with you from now on.
  3. I'm sorry for the pain I caused you. You didn't deserve it, and I'll spend as long as it takes making it right.

How to make a message your own

  • Add the specific thing. "I'm sorry I missed your work dinner" means more than "I'm sorry for everything."
  • Leave out "but." Anything after "but" cancels what came before it.
  • Say it in person if you can. A text is a start; your voice and your face finish it.
  • Write it by hand. A message in your handwriting is something she can keep.

Frequently asked questions

Name what you did, say you're sorry without excuses, and tell her what will change. For example: "I've been thinking about what I did, and I understand now why it hurt. I'm sorry. I want to earn your trust back, one day at a time."

Want her to keep the words?

Our apology necklaces come with a printed message card, so the apology stays with her after the conversation is over. You can read every card in full on our apology gifts for her page.

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